We all have a hard-wiring within our brains that has been written from our development, genetics, experiences, and knowledge base. These four areas shape our understanding and create an automatic response that occurs prior to our brain even registering a reaction (our defaults). Understanding and noticing these automatic responses to situations allows us to further […]
“Trust your instincts, Intuition doesn’t lie.” Oprah Winfrey Trauma often disconnects us from our inner workings of what we need in certain situations. Resulting in us disconnecting from ourselves and putting ourselves into increasingly risky situations. IE: not trusting our gut instinct when it’s telling you to leave the conversation you are in (because that […]
There is a strong (and damaging) myth when it comes to grief “time heals everything; and as time passes, you’ll heal, and it gets easier.” Those phrases are well meaning but very inaccurate. As time passes parts of the grief shift, memories refocus, meaning from their life is created and honoured, and emotions become processed. […]
Reflection thoughts from: “The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy” Written by: John Gottman and Julie Schwartz -Gottman Our inner narratives can get in our way of truly loving and receiving love. Unpacking that narrative to truly see what the negative and positive cognitions you are holding, is so important within […]
The beautiful work within ‘Burn Out’- By Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski; They speak to the realities of stress within our lives and the impacts that it has on our overall well-being. Their research focused on a new vantage point of stress and didn’t focus on the specifics of the situations that create our stress […]
It’s important for us to reflect upon how we communicate. What is our communication style? What is our intention of the specific communication? What is the expectation of the person I’m communicating with? What is my need within the communication itself? If we define clear answers to these questions we can effective improve our communication […]
Within the book Burn Out- By Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski; They speak to an important concept of the ‘Human Giver Syndrome.’ This concept highlights the methodology that society feeds off the belief that we (especially women) have a “moral obligation to give your entire humanity and do so cheerfully.” It is the belief of: […]
We are often driven by our sense of purpose, and this is often gained by our measurement of being productive. This reality can often overwhelm us and leave us feeling not enough. No matter what achievement we complete, or accomplishment we level up too we can fall into a trap of a never-ending loop of […]
The opposite (far enemy) of ‘Belonging’ is ‘Fitting In’. We must give up parts of ourselves in order to ‘Fit In’. Belonging is the experience of being acceptance for your truest self! Finding surroundings where we truly belong is one of the most beautiful gifts, we can provide to ourselves. Finding those individuals to surround […]
Safety is the largest part of true healing. We need to have physical, emotional, and psychological safety in order to establish a sense of self-regulation prior to being able to do a deep dive into trauma healing. Awareness: To start off being able to identify what safety looks like for you is key! — Naming […]
